Also, because he is looking, I stupidly decided maybe I should, too. I am devastated and heartbroken and don't feel ready for this at all as I still love him and it wouldn't be fair to anyone else either. He seemed unhappy with life and it seemed to start seeping into our relationship and I became unhappy with things and emotional about everything as well. He said he doesn't have the energy left to put into fighting like this and needed more from me in order to try that hard again.And if you were him and saw that I had one now too how would you feel? Only make an online profile for the purposes of seriously finding someone. I cried and told him how much I love him and that it didn't have to be this way.Online dating has reached the point where it isn't weird to say you met someone via the internet anymore.Tinder is another story, but that's a digression for a different day.I try pretty hard not to give into confirmation bias.

Friday morning, Gawker reprinted a 700-word breakup email sent from an OKCupid enthusiast to a woman he had gone on all of three dates with. Pointing out someone's flaws in an attempt to "help" them in the future is asinine and not really beneficial. Just say, "Had fun with you, but didn't really feel a romantic connection." That's the best breakup anyone ever gave me. Rejection sucks, but having the person who rejected you tell you what an awesome person you are, or how cool your style looks is effing painful.

The old ways were kind of ad hoc, and happenstance.

You meet somebody at the bar, or your mom maybe knew somebody who had a kid who was your age, and it was her idea that the two of you would be perfect together, even though usually she didn't really know that other person."The internet and the phone apps give people more control.

Please help me understand why someone would go about things this way. Don't do it to make him jealous, or to find a rebound. I could see he couldn't do this anymore but was having a hard time saying it all.

Trust me, it's easier to suffer the old fashioned way rather than making things even more complicated. He said relationships are work but shouldn't be this much of a struggle.