While men traditionally have been the more unfaithful sex, gender roles are reversing in some cases as more women experience cybersex.

The audience at the Old Electric Plant could switch between three views on erotic labour: the client’s perspective (video), the behind-the-scenes perspectives (screening of the chat and the artist’s entire work place, not merely her body) and the non-mediated perspective of a live audience, whom Liad invited to ask questions about the inner workings of the sex industry. Who are we to decide which form of exploitation is ok and which one is not? The other widely spread feminist assumption is the notion that sex work is empowering and emancipatory. One of the many false identities Deery has assumed online is something truly rare, even in this polluted pond—that of a middle-aged mother of two pre-pubescent girls who is offering them up for sex.Baiting her hook with this forbidden fruit, she would cast the line and wait to see who bit. Men began vying for her attention the minute she logged on, night or day. He was looking at porno, again,” reports a counseling client. The blue green glow of the computer made him look diseased.Women usually feel more threatened by the emotional betrayal of a partner’s online affair, while men are more concerned about physical encounters, Hertlein says, but the gender differences are lessening.“That is starting to even out in part because of the equality of opportunity that the Internet brings to everybody,” she says.The only window is high on the wall, over a tall filing cabinet, and opens into a well, below ground level.The space feels like a cave, which has always struck Deery as about right, because her job is to talk dirty online to strange men. She has athletic good looks, with tawny skin, big brown eyes, and long straight brown hair that falls over her shoulders.Sex addicts on the Internet often experience a rapid progression of their addiction.The new sexual thrills lead to spending huge amounts of time, moving more quickly into more extreme behaviors, taking greater risks, and getting caught more frequently.Her parents sent her to Catholic schools, and her mother, a retired district judge, now jokes that she wants her money back.Her daughter’s beat is in the vilest corners of cyberspace, in chat rooms indicating “fetish” or various subgenres of flagrant peccancy.The typical affair used to start in the office and move to a seedy motel room, but the vast reach of the Internet has brought infidelity into many couples’ homes over the past decade.The growth in steamy chat room conversations and cybersex also has triggered a rethinking of the meaning of infidelity.