After a break up, when should you start dating again?

That is different for every person, but here are some questions to consider to help you determine if you are ready to start dating again.

People seems to always come up with different “rules” on how long someone should wait after a break up.

Some say, at least 6 months if you were in a serious (years) relationship.

But when is the right time to pick yourself up and get back on the dating horse? We have met The Rep many times and we have been The Rep ourselves. What is fueling your need to jump into the next relationship?

Timing will vary from person to person, so instead let’s look at some key points to remember when getting back into the scene. The Representative is the person who shows up for the first 6-8 weeks of a new relationship. Of course new relationships are fun and exciting (note: The Rep), but YOU are also fun and exciting!

Often people simply seem to think is disrespectful to the other person if you start dating right away after you break up with them.Do you see your partners as being needy or irresponsible?You may be dating people that put you in the position of feeling needed and validated.If someone just broke up with you is a good idea to just start dating right away.If you just stay home and feel miserable, you’re just going to make things worse.This is when we are bringing our A game, putting our best foot forward, and being the best partner possible. Take time to date yourself, travel, cross some items off your bucket list, reconnect with old friends, volunteer, visit family, etc…Keep this in mind when you meet your next potential suitor and you swear they are “THE ONE”. Many happy couples share that they met their partner when they least expected it. The Roles – While you are dodging The Rep and taking time for yourself, it can also be helpful to look at past relationships and what role you and your partner took on.Whether or not the end of your last relationship was your choice, it can be daunting to start all over again.Paula Hall offers some practical advice to men and women seeking a new long-term relationship. Know the 3 R’s of Relationship Readiness Breakups are tough, regardless of how the decision was made to end the relationship. Afterall, you didn’t start off dating this person with the intention to break up with them, right?It also doesn’t mean that you will never date again, so there is an upside.Everyone has flaws, everyone has skeletons in the closet, and no one is perfect. You may notice a pattern emerging and can use this information to seek a healthy and happy relationship.For example, do you notice that you feel you are always the responsible one in the relationship?After the break-up of a long relationship, it can be almost frightening to be single again: you’ve relied for so long on another person to meet certain emotional, practical and financial needs.However, one of the most liberating things about being single is the empowerment it brings: you realise that you have skills and talents for coping with life that have remained dormant for years and can now resurface.